Monday, February 23, 2015

5 Tips on Coping with Childhood Rage

5 Tips for Coping with Rage in Children

I don't talk about this subject to many people. Only a chosen few know what my husband and I have gone through over the last few years. I as a mom have dealt with the emotional entourage that comes with this subject. And now I feel that I can share what I have learned over time. 

 Many parents out there suffer emotionally when their children experience rage. I'm not talking foot stomping, slamming doors, crying, temper tantrums type of anger. I'm talking full blown, mind blowing, blind rage. Stuff that can scare the living daylights out of you. Especially when it's your child. 

For years, not only did I blame myself as a mom, but I was blamed for his episodes of destructive anger. There were women, even in my bible study group who blamed me, family members blamed me. I got the looks in the store, dentist office, stores. There were times that I was yelled at in public because of my son's  rage. 

With this blame came depression and an actual belief that it was me that was causing this. There wasn't a day that went by that I didn't cry. I felt so alone. I couldn't go anywhere without worrying when or what would drive him to it. 

But after a few years of  counseling, behavioral therapy school, medications, support groups, lots of great doctors. I finally have a handle on this. I'm no expert but our house is less stressful, happier, he's happier than we have been in a long time. 

Tips for Coping with Childhood Rage

1. Stay Calm!! It can be tough to do. I won't lie. It took me a while to understand that getting angry myself doesn't help the situation. It can make it much worse.  Count to ten to calm yourself even if you need to or go to the other room until you can stay calm. 

2. I can't recommend a developmental pediatrician enough. Ask your child's doctor for a referral. A 15 minute appointment is not enough to get your child the help they need. Ours spent 8 straight hours with my son. Interacting and observing. 

3. Join a support group. It's amazing how many parents truly believe that they are the only ones are going through this. You need to be able to talk about it. 

4. Keep telling yourself , "IT'S NOT MY FAULT" . It's not, I promise. This kind of anger is not because of lack of discipline, too much sugar, or lazy parenting. You are a good parent. Don't start doubting yourself or it will eat at you. 

5. Most importantly, make sure you let your child know that you love them. They can't help the rage. It's out of there control. They need to understand that you are there for them no matter what. 

Eventually, you and your child will learn what triggers their rage, what works to calm them, and how to stop it before it starts. I will touch more on the issue in future posts. But for now, hugs to all of you. You are doing an awesome job. It may not feel like it right now. But you are! 

Please feel free to contact me if you have any questions. I'd be glad to help!

Friday, February 06, 2015

Valentine’s for Dogs – Say I LOVE YOU with treats!

Ti's the season for showing you care for those you love. The valentine's are all ready for teachers, classmates, your better half, and your best friends. What about that one furry loved one that has always been there. He's snuggled up with you on the couch when you were sick, laid his head on your lap when you were sad, jumps for joy when he knows you're happy.Valentine’s treats are not only for people, but also for our beloved pets too!!!

Valentines for Dogs

 Why not include your dogs in special occasions and share a special moment with them? After all they have been there for you just as much as you have for them!

Treat your Dog on Valentines Day

Our dogs have always been a big part of our family. There hasn't been a time that we haven't had one in our life. They get treats, Christmas Presents, time at the Dog Park, visiting the farm. They even come with us to Grandma's house for Christmas!

Share the Love with your furry friend!

This year they will be getting an extra something special from us for Valentine's Day. And you can share the love with your pup too! Visit Big Heart Pet Brands to print out your own cards and attach a treat to it. 

Did you know that California is the number one dog lover state? Find out who else made the list by visiting here

Don't forget to share the love with your dog this Valentine's Day!!!

Wednesday, January 28, 2015

Wordless Wednesday - My CrazyLife

Wordless Wednesday -My Crazy Life


Tuesday, January 27, 2015

5 Ways to Beat Cabin Fever

It's hard enough to keep a typical child occupied during snow days, teacher work days, etc. Kids with ADHD tend to need some structure. Most of you know, bored kids sometimes leads to overflowed toilets (the titanic was sinking), fluff all over the living room (look mom, SNOW!), or self-led experiments in the kitchen with soap, chocolate chips, celery and your good towels.

5 Ways to Curb Cabin Fever

I am speaking from experience, people!

The more structure a child with ADHD has while at home for the day/days the better your chances are that your sanity stays intact. Schedule their day. Include fun activities, quiet time, and time with just you. Put their schedule on the fridge that way they can see what they can look forward to during the day. 

 What better place to find activities to keep your child from bouncing off the wall than Pinterest! Don't get me started on Pinterest. It's addictive. I can suck the day away! Anyways, I thought I'd share five of my kids favorites. 

Beat the Cabin Fever Insanity

Indoor Activities- Curbing Cabin Fever

Crepe Paper Laser Maze

ADHD Curbing  Cabin Fever
Pom Pom Races

ADHD Curbing Cabin Fever
Toothpick Sculptures

There are so many ideas out there but these seem to work for my son. These are great for all kids parents too! Remember kids with ADHD can get overwhelmed with the task of figuring out ways to cure boredom and that can create havoc and lots of grey hair. Take the edge off and most of all have fun!!!